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No One Tells You This by Glynnis MacNicol

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Length 304
Overview A fabulous memoir about a newly 40, childless, single woman in New York learning to struggle, be proud of, regret, love, question, and live the life she has.

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No One Tells You This by Glynnis MacNicol is a new release having hit bookstore shelves barely a month ago. I jumped at the opportunity to read this, and I absolutely love it.

I’m single, childless, and getting older every day. As a woman of a certain age, I hear “when are you getting married?” “when are you going to have babies?” and “you’ve still got time.” more than often. I’m not searching these things out. We live in a time where I am not forced into a one-way path of female adulthood; I can choose, support, and live almost anyway I desire. This is revolutionary even though it’s not completely unusual. There is a serious lack of variation in female role models. Every path is beautiful and fulfilling and difficult as long as we are able to choose the path we live.

Glynnis MacNicol shares her fortieth year story as she figures out if she’s happy with the life she’s accidentally, purposely chosen. No kids. Single. Her mother’s health is failing from Parkinson’s. Her friends are getting married and having babies. She hasn’t found anyone. Does she even want babies? She spends the year she turned 40 figuring out if she wants to keep going down that path.

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I don’t want to tell you too much, but the book is amazing. MacNicol is incredibly honest with the good and the bad. She taps in to her inner voice in an incredibly sincere way. She can be sad and funny in the same moment. There are incredibly touching moments, which will resonate deeply for women of all backgrounds and lives about finding happiness and being true to oneself.

The group of friends MacNicol describes is amazing. I hope to have a support group as deep, loyal, and wonderful as the one she describes. I also love how she often goes off on tangents describing her life in terms of “if my life were a rom-com.” She has no fear in tapping into the hilariously ludicrous inner voice we all have but would probably not want thousands of people knowing.        

I highly suggest you add this book to the top of your reading list. It’s perfect for any woman and should be read by men too.

Memorable Quotes
“Women alone always seemed to be seen as an advertisement: open space, please fill.”
“What cultural markers were there for women other than weddings and babies?”
“Women my age were always being accused of getting tell serious too quickly, but in my experience, men were just as guilty of it, maybe even more so.”
“People leave, but they also come back.”

Title: No One Tells You This
Author: Glynnis Macnicol
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Copyright: 2018
ISBN: 9781501163135
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The Forty Rules of Love

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Length 358
Quick Review When an unhappy, Jewish mother in Massachusetts begins reading a novel by a wandering, Sufi man, she embarks on a personal journey for love, self, and truth.

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This was suggested to me by one of my followers, and I was hesitant to say the least. I am not into romance or mushy-gushy love stories. This one has love in the title. I was pleasantly surprised. The Forty Rules of Love by Elif Shafak is not so much about romantic love as it is about being a good person and walking through the world with love in your heart.

Ella is newly 40 with a romantic daughter in college, tweenaged twins with troubles, and a dallying husband, but if she ignores it and focuses on her new job, maybe it will all go away. Ella focused on her family for many years, but now she has a new job as a reader for a literary agent. She must read Sweet Blasphemy and submit a report. The book is so drastically different from her own life, and, yet, she is drawn in to the story and the author, who she begins a correspondence with.

Sweet Blasphemy is about the friendship between Shams of Tabriz and the exalted poet Rumi. Told from many perspectives, it is a tale of friendship, love, trust, wandering, destiny, and mysticism. Shams of Tabriz is a wandering dervish, who enters Rumi’s life and Konya, Turkey changing both forever. Shams has forty rules for the religion of love. Although, I don’t necessarily agree with all of them, there are a lot of truly poignant moments and quotes.

Several people told me the ending is heartbreaking. Honestly, I thought it was the most appropriate ending. It isn’t shocking, but any other ending would be a disservice to the novel and the meaning.

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Shafak writes a novel within a novel. It’s not a new story framework, but she does it exceedingly well. Everytime the story would shift from one to the other, I would always be wondering what would happen next. Shafak has an incredibly deep belief in love and humanity as she explores prejudice and malice and blind religiosity among other things. The narrators are not always good people, but they all have a perspective that bolsters the main theme.  

Elif Shafak is a Turkish author, and her native language is Turkish. However, she writes her novels in English. As a linguist who has learned several languages, I CANNOT imagine writing novels in another language. It is incredibly hard, and she does it so well. I would have never been able to tell from reading The Forty Rules of Love that she is not a native speaker.

Memorable Quotes
“When you speak the truth, they hate you. “
“Finally I understood that whenever people heard something unusual, they called it a dream.”
Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to be farsighted enough to trust the end result of the process.”
“These codes of honor had less to do with the harmony God created than with the order human beings wanted to sustain.”

Title: The Forty Rules of Love
Author: Elif Shafak
Publisher: Penguin Books
Copyright: 2010
ISBN: 9780241972939
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The Singles Game by Lauren Weisberger

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Length 343
Quick Review Charlie is an American sweetheart when an injury jeopardizes her tennis career. In order to make it back in the game, she changes everything inviting a fierce coach into her life.

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The Singles Game is my first Lauren Weisberger novel, who is the bestselling author of The Devil Wears Prada and many other books. I grabbed it because it looked like a great book for summer. It is! Weisberger takes you along on drama, high fashion, trips, and a young woman’s journey in elite tennis to find her game and herself.

Charlie Silver is one of the most likeable characters I have ever read. I wouldn’t necessarily call her complex and dynamic, but she is a genuinely good person. She makes mistakes and makes up for them, but she is never not a good person. She is young, barely in her mid-twenties, and from Southern California. Charlie was a talented tennis player from the beginning, but she has an injury at Wimbledon causing her to take a look at her life. She hires a new and very tough coach to help her recovery and become the tennis player she knows she can be.

The Singles Game is pretty much the perfect summer/vacation read because it takes the reader to incredibly luxurious locations with glamorous parties and men with amazing bodies.

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I would call the plot line mysterious; in fact, I was able to guess it pretty quickly. The “hints” are pretty blatant. The characters are fairly flat, but it doesn’t make them unlikable. Todd, the tennis coach, is heralded as the devil himself, but even he’s not that awful. One of the aspects I really enjoyed about the book was Charlie’s conversations with her best friend. They’re honest. Their conversations about sex is so realistic for twenty-something women.

Weisberger has a great sense of humor and ability to tell a well thought out story. It’s the perfect easy and compelling read for the summer. I highly recommend it for any vacation coming your way.

Memorable Quotes
“…chunk-heeled snakeskin booties that could, oddly, work for both prostitutes and grandmothers.”

Title: The Singles Game
Author: Lauren Weisberger
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Copyright: 2016
ISBN: 9781476778396
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Risk! by Kevin Allison

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Length 380
Quick Review Kevin Allison compiles incredibly touching stories in Risk! People from different backgrounds some of their most trying experiences. 

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Risk by Kevin Allison

Kevin Allison is the creator of the podcast and live show Risk! Over the years, he has heard people famous and not tell their stories they never thought they would tell. He has compiled some of the most memorable stories into a book, which comes out on July 17, 2018.

Everyone has a story to tell. Allison tells his own story alongside a multitude of others, but the pages are filled with real experiences people never thought they would tell. The stories range from the hilarious, bizarre, unbelievable, to completely heartbreaking. At the heart of each story is the essence of being human and finding meaning in even the most difficult situations.

Risk! is divided into sections based on the content of the story. Stories range from two pages to ten or so pages long. They all usually have a humorous aspect to them, but most have a serious theme. After each story, is a brief Question & Answer with the storyteller about how it affected their life or healing process; some are a question or two and others longer. Part of me really enjoyed reading this part, but the other part of me really prefers for the story to stand on its own.

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All in all, Risk! Is a really beautiful book full of insight into moments in people’s lives from a large variety of backgrounds and ethnicities tackling subjects from child sexual abuse to life in a drug cartel to prostitution to kinky sex. Laugh out loud moments kept me going through the tear jerkers. I really enjoyed this, and it’s a great book to take on vacations, commute, or in your busy stop-and-start life.

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Memorable Quotes
“This kid grew up poor with no hope and no support, and that is a very different kind of poverty – an emotional poverty.”
“I married my child when he was still a man.”
“…the thing about money is that it buys you comfort, but comfort is numbness.”

Title Risk! True Stories People Never Thought They’d Dare to Share
Editor Kevin Allison
Publisher Hachette Book Group
Copyright 2018
ISBN 9780316478281

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The Queen of Katwe by Tim Crothers

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Length 224
Quick Review Phiona Mutesi is from one of the worst slums in the world in a country left behind. Overcoming every impossibility, she is one of the most promising young women in chess.

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Phiona Mutesi should not be a name I know; it should not be a name anyone knows. She is from Katwe a slum of Kampala in Uganda. It has some of the worst living conditions in the world. She was born poorer than poor. Through what can only be explained as divine intervention, she found chess and success and a place in a world she didn’t even know existed.

Tim Crothers published The Queen of Katwe in 2012. A Disney movie of the same name was released in 2016 starring Lupita Nyong’o and David Oyelowo. I saw the movie before I knew about the book. Obviously, the book is better, but the movie was pretty damn good. Tim Crothers happened upon Phiona’s story as a sports journalist. His attention was captured, and this book became the product.

Crothers spends more time describing Katwe, conditions, Uganda, and people than he does Phiona. At the time of publication, Phiona was maybe 14. Her life just beginning. He does this because it is necessary to set the scene in which Phiona was born into. It would be impossible to understand the magnitude of the miracle without understanding the devastation of her reality.

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Katwe has a sad history. People from rural areas left for a better life in Kampala, but with no skills suited to city-life they found refuge in a place they could go without notice. Katwe grew from a swamp to a sprawling slum. As Uganda went through regime changes and rebellions Katwe saw the worst of it. The citizens are often flooded out of their homes or ravaged by disease. Tragedy and death is their reality. So much death that Uganda is the youngest country in the world with an average age of 14. No one is certain of their birth year simply guessing how old they are. Surviving is the driving force. A need to eat and lack of funds and opportunity requires children to work. Without education a cycle has formed of dependency, poverty, ignorance, and children having babies.

Robert Katende grew up in slums, but was lucky enough to have an education. Without contacts, he had little prospect. Through his faith, he made a contact that would change so many lives. He brought sports to Katwe. Giving the children who had no hope a bright spot in their day. Katende spread his faith through soccer and eventually chess as well as one meal a day. Sometimes the only meal the children would have. Phiona Mutesi followed her brother to chess club one day. Maybe it was the promise of a meal or a diversion from reality, she kept returning. She took to the game quickly.

Phiona had no understanding of the world outside her slum when she bordered a plane for the first time. Chess opened up her world in a way nothing else could have. Through her natural talent, her hard work, her drive, the tireless support of Katende and all the others, Phiona has traveled the world competing at the highest tiers of chess competitions, and she has won.

As I read, I was constantly on the verge of tears. It is an impressive account of overcoming every impossibility. Crother’s includes so many accounts of Ugandans overcoming and succeeding and Ugandans who are just surviving in Katwe. It is impossible to read this without being moved on an intensely deep level. There is one passage towards the end of the book, which summed up every emotion I had:

“Phiona Mutesi is the ultimate underdog. To be African is to be an underdog in the world. To be Ugandan is to be an underdog in Africa. To be from Katwe is to be an underdog in Uganda. To be a girl is to be an underdog in Katwe.”

It is an intensely moving passage. Crother’s spends the whole book demonstrating the truth of this statement. Phiona is an underdog. She’s an underdog who has continued to overcome.

The Queen of Katwe isn’t just Phiona’s story. It is the story of every person who helped her. By helping her succeed, they were paving a path for Uganda to gain respect in a world that has largely forgotten it. She’s a young woman with the weight of a country on her shoulders.   

*The Queen of Katwe was published in 2012. There is a new postscript for the paperback edition, which updates the reader about Phiona’s circumstances. I, of course, had to research more because I want this underdog to succeed. She is a Woman Candidate Master in chess with a FIDE score of 1628. She received a scholarship and is a part of the chess team at Northwest University in Kirkland, Washington, which she started attending in 2017. She is still succeeding and creating her story!!!  

Memorable Quotes
“What name Phiona come back day after day were the beautiful pieces that attracted her in the first place.”
“…positive reinforcement being an unfamiliar but powerful incentive to a slum child.”
“Phiona was like a boy, but because she was not a boy, her opportunity to advance quickly in the game was mind-boggling.”
“The shriek of a dismissed girl from a dismissed world finally making herself be heard.”

Title: The Queen of Katwe
Author: Tim Crothers
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Copyright: 2012
ISBN: 9781501127182
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The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo by Amy Schumer

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Length 323
Quick Review Amy Schumer is a household name as a bold and open comic, movie star, TV star, writer, and more, but do we really know her?

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I live under a rock, so I had never heard of Amy Schumer until her 2016 movie Trainwreck. In the two years following, I have become a big fan. I love her honesty. She’s not perfect, but she is real. In The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo, she ramps up her candor and imperfections even more. She becomes an even more relatable star as she humorously tells some of the ups and downs and face plants of her life.

I am drawn to people who deal with struggle through humor; probably because I do the same damn thing. Schumer’s stand up is hilarious and powerful and sometimes in your face. Her book is a subdued version of all of those things. She looks comfortable on stage for comedy shows. During interviews, she seems nervous and uncomfortable like she’d rather be any where else preferably not in the spotlight. Instead of entertaining on a stage or sitting on a couch for an interview, her introversion shines through. She is just that: an introvert. In her book, it feels like she gets to tell her story on her own terms without having the pressure of being funny.

I have always appreciated her unapologetic honesty. Her book is even more so. She talks about her family, her struggles, her relationships, losing her virginity, abuse, the road to success, having money, and so much more. She lets her fans and readers in and see what is behind her on stage persona.

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She has a very self-deprecating sense of humor. I appreciate this because I too spend most of my time pointing out my flaws. Although, I hope she could see herself the way so many people see her: as a smart, talented, beautiful woman. It is obvious she deals with self-esteem issues sometimes bordering on ‘does she have any self-confidence at all?’ But I would love to meet a woman on this earth who doesn’t. This book was written two years ago, and it’s evident the themes in her latest movie I Feel Pretty have been long lasting themes in her own life.

Candor is one of the most notable points in her memoir. She talks about her parents honestly. She has no qualm about critiquing or slamming present and past self. Her inclusion of diary entries is hilarious and wonderful. She includes footnotes, which are equally funny. It takes a lot of lady balls to let the world see the ridiculousness that is teenage diaries.

Schumer is a born storyteller. She has a tendency to meander through her stories and chapters by adding one or three tales on her way to making her main point. They may or may not have something to do with her point, but they are all entertaining.
I highly suggest The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo to anyone who enjoys a good laugh and a multidimensional memoir. I know I do!

Memorable Quotes
“If you’re a true introvert, other people are basically energy vampires.”
“I don’t know what a hedge fund is. I want a hedgehog fund.”
“…nobody can be innocent and wise at the same time.”
“This is how we were raised: we were always oppressively OKAY.”

Title: The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo
Author: Amy Schumer
Publisher: Gallery Books (Simon & Schuster)
Copyright: 2016
ISBN: 9781501139888