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Cancel the Wedding

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Length 416
Quick Review After her mother’s death, a young woman realizes how little she knows about her mother and herself. She goes on a journey to find both with her niece by her side.

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In Dingman’s debut novel she writes a sweet novel filled with family ties, mystery, love, history, and southern small town charm. It’s an easy read which screams to be read on the beach during a hot summer vacation.

Olivia has it all a stable fiancé, a high powered career, a life in Washington DC, and now a wedding date. When everything in her life couldn’t seem more stable, she decides to head south to a small town in Georgia with her niece to discover the past her mother left behind a long time ago. She has no idea what she will find and even less of an idea of how to find it. Guided by a short note in her mother’s will and determination, she sets off on what was meant to be a long weekend.

Behind the sweet façade of a story, Dingman explores the complex issue of a mother-daughter relationship. She uses Olivia and her sister, Georgia, to look into the relationship daughters have with their mothers as adults, and Georgia and her daughter, Logan, to show the difficulty both daughters and mothers go through to establish a sense of self and a link to one another. 

As the title suggest, Cancel the Wedding, delves into idea of a wedding and a marriage being linked yet separate identities. So often, it is easy to focus on the traditional steps of creating a life – meeting, dating, engagement, buying property, wedding – that one can forget the life after the wedding, and also lose oneself in the planning. Because life isn’t simple, Dingman is able to complicate her characters’ lives, so they have to sort out what means the most.

Cancel the Wedding is not a literary feat, but it is a great first novel appealing to a wide scope of readers with a penchant for romance and mystery.

Memorable Quotes
“You really only have a passionate row if you feel completely confident that you can get through it, or if you’re using it as the hand grenade tossed over your shoulder on your way out the door.”
“It took a lot of smoke and mirrors and subterfuge to make the world see you the way you wanted them to.”
“I was starting to get that prickly feeling again about not wanting to get married.”

Title: Cancel the Wedding
Author: Carolyn T. Dingman
Publisher: HarperCollins
Copyright: 2014
ISBN: 9780062276728

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Blackass

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Length 272
Quick Review A modern retelling of Kafka’s Metamorphosis exploring identity through race in Lagos, Nigeria after a black man wakes up as a white man.

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A. Igoni Barrett brings a new depth to a classic novel by diving into the complicated issue of race in Nigeria as well as the power of perception. Barrett writes with incredible wit.

Furo wakes up one morning to discover his once dark skin is now very pink and pale. Blackass follows Furo as he navigates the world he was once familiar with through very different eyes.

Furo is a young man in his early thirties. For the young and all ages in between, Twitter and Facebook have become incredibly integral parts of our lives, and Barrett is able to incorporate these aspects into the narrative. An entire section of the novel is dedicated to sleuthing through tweets, as we have all cyberstalked someone once. Barrett also describes the difficult challenge of trying to shut down a Facebook page and needing Google to find the answer. Technology has permeated every aspect of our lives including our literature.

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Barrett explores how truly powerful perception can be both in favor and against a person. As people, we immediately begin sorting people into different classes by the way they look. Though we do our best to fight it, it is an intrinsic quality we have. Even the Nigerians tend to prefer whiteness to blackness in everything they do from the little things from bleaching cream to deferential treatment to blatant statements that white westerners are more together than black Africans.

The most interesting aspect of the novel is how well Barrett is able to capture the depth and range of the female experience in such a short novel. There are several women who weave in and out of Furo’s story. Each woman is able to portray a different woman’s part in society. In moments, I was astounded at the depth of understanding Barrett had for the female condition. It is powerful and moving in its unwavering honesty.

Barrett writes a captivating novel from beginning to end.

Memorable Quotes
“Then again, she had never faced the parental pressure he did – a woman can find a husband to take care of her, but a man must take care of his wife…”
“… I was already trying to say what I see now, that we are all constructed narratives.”
“A white man in Lagos has no voice louder than the dollar sign branded on to his forehead.”
“No one asks you to be born, to be black or white or any colour in between, and yet the identity a person is born into becomes the hardest to explain to the world.”
“Who I was as a person was more than what I looked like, but then again, how people saw me was a part of who I was.”
“Womanhood comes with its peculiar burdens, among them the distant reminder of subordinate status whose dominant symptom was uninvited sexual attention from men.”
“Pity the man who never becomes the woman he could be.”
“‘And you’re a white man. You don’t have to fuck anyone for favours.’”
“No one’s path is laid out from birth, we must all choose our own through life, and what greater gift is given a person than the chance to see the destinations where the roads not taken might have led you.”

Title: Blackass
Author: A. Igoni Barrett
Publisher: Graywolf Press (Vintage/Penguin Random House)
Copyright: 2015
ISBN: 9781555977337

 

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An American Brat

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Length 317
Quick Review A young girl’s transformation after leaving everything she’s ever known in Pakistan for the US. A look into immigration, religion, culture, society, and familial obligation. 

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Bapsi Sidhwa published An American Brat in 1993. It deals with a lot of issues, which are still pressing, if not more prevalent, over twenty years later. She writes with a sense of humor and insight into two vastly different cultures.

Feroza is the sixteen year old daughter of Zareen and Cyrus. She is part of an upper class, tight-knit family in Pakistan belonging to the Parsee ethnic group of the Zoroastrian faith speaking Gujrati. The year is 1979, and a lot is changing in Pakistan with the rise of Muslim extremists. Having raised Feroza with a strong set of morals, Zareen and Cyrus send her to spend three months with her uncle in the US. While she’s in the US, she decides to apply for university. Once she is accepted, she moves to Idaho for her freshman year at a junior college. She keeps in touch with her family, but begins to find herself while exploring American culture, traditions, and friendships. After her freshman year, she relocates to Colorado with her roommate to go to a bigger university, where she meets people with similar ethnic backgrounds. Feroza begins to find her place and way in her new life navigating social norms, religious differences, cultural influences, and trying to meet her familial expectations.

I thought it was funny Feroza’s family wanted to send her to the very liberal and different United States in order to keep her grounded in Pakistani, Parsee, and Zoroastrian traditions. I really enjoyed how the women were portrayed throughout the novel. Sidhwa has very strong female roles, which differs from how most Middle Eastern women are portrayed throughout history and in contemporary media and art. These women have strong senses of self with leading roles in their homes and social circles. They have vibrant social lives even though they are not seen out and about like in Western cultures.

The title is An American Brat. You’ll read it expecting one person to be the American Brat, but the brat is constantly changing depending on the section you’re reading. Although, the bratty behavior is usually explainable and sometimes understandable.

There is a scene portrayed towards the beginning of the novel where Feroza is getting off the plane in the US and has to go through customs. As a white girl, I have never had an issue with customs. I have, however, watched people of other ethnicities have issues going through security and customs. Reading Sidhwa’s depiction, I can’t imagine the emotionally devastating impact it would have on someone, especially someone so young, sheltered, and alone as sixteen year old Feroza is in the novel. She is harangued by security guards and customs officers accusing her of lying and trying to stay in the country illegally. She is treated as if she doesn’t speak or understand the language, which is false. Remember this was published in 1993, which was almost a decade before 9/11 and security crackdowns. I can’t imagine what it would be like now.

Feroza must deal with trying to make herself happy while also living up to familial expectations. Her family expects her to return to Pakistan and marry a Parsee Zoroastrian. If she does not, she will be kicked out of her faith and left out of many important cultural traditions. It is also important to note the impact her leaving the faith would have on a wider scale. At the time, there were only 120,000 people in the ethnic group, so there is a scramble to keep the young people in the faith. Feroza is also dealing with the fact she and her family are not Muslim living in a Muslim country and culture. They are having to deal with a cultural shift.

While in the US, Feroza starts to realize her position as a woman. Growing up, she was told freedom would come to her once she was married. Through marriage, she would gain happiness and freedom. It is a way of keeping young girls pliable while maintaining traditional values. Living in the US, she sees how all of those qualities are completely attainable without marrying. Her mother, Zareen, visits the United States and starts to question the position women have in regards to their religion.

I overall, loved this book. There are so many complex issues Sidhwa explores throughout the novel. I couldn’t recommend it more!

Memorable Quotes
“In Pakistan, politics, with its social brew of martial law and religion, influenced every aspect of day-to-day living.”
“Finding herself awash in this exhilaratingly free and new culture had made her forget the strictures imposed on her conduct as a Pakistani girl.”
“… in the short while she’d been exposed to the American culture, she’d grown shockingly brazen.”
“To acknowledge it would be to advert that she was the cause, the irritant, the inducer of the evil.”
“Nevertheless, the schizophrenia she perceived at the core of America’s relationship to its own citizens and to those in poor countries like hers continued to disturb her.”
“Feroza realized with a sense of shock that she had outgrown her family’s expectations for her.”

Title: An American Brat

Author: Bapsi Sidhwa
Publisher: Milkweed Editions
Copyright: 1993
ISBN: 9781571310057

 

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Herland

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Length 147
Quick Review Written over a hundred years ago, this underappreciated utopian novel is a small powerful punch. It is still incredibly relevant in today’s society as a critique on gender and society.

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Charlotte Perkins Gilman is best known for her short story “The Yellow Wallpaper.” She never shied away from the difficult subjects at a time when very few women even received an education.

Herland is the story of three young men, who have ventured on an exploratory expedition. Along their journey they find out about a country inhabited solely by women. They could not believe this to be true, so they took off to discover it for themselves.

The story is told in first person narrative by Vandyck Jennings observing the new country, the inhabitants, their ways and beliefs, and the reaction between the women and his counterparts. His travel companions are Terry Nicholson and Jeff Margrave. They are all very educated men embodying very different yet mainstream Western beliefs on the role women play in society and the home. Jeff believes women are purity anchoring society in goodness meant to be worshipped as delicate in body and mind. Terry believes women are objects to be possessed and controlled whose existence is solely for the pleasure and benefit of men, who are superior. Vandyck is in the middle choosing to look at Herland and the inhabitants through an educated lense but still preferring his homeland.

When the men arrive in Herland they can’t stop looking for the men believing women are incapable of surviving without men. They are taken as prisoners. The women learn all they can from the three men, who are the first men they’ve encountered in 2,000 years. Through their interaction the men learn and are shocked by the organized and intellectual abilities of the women.

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Though it was written in 1915, it is still incredibly relevant in today’s society. In many ways society has not progressed much further from the three viewpoints embodied by the men. Women are still seen as delicate in need of protection, seductresses, or far too emotional to function in any capacity with a greater power and reach than mother and homemaker. Men, and even women, are still shocked and intimidated to find a successful, organized woman.

Gilman is able to tackle incredibly complex and difficult subjects in a mere hundred and twenty-two pages. She is able to tear down the traditional meaning of feminine and the meaning of motherhood. She shows women are equally capable, if not more, of organized and intellectual society. Gilman explores the meaning of society, gender, sex, and happiness.

Memorable Quotes
“They were inconveniently reasonable, those women.”
“These stalwart virgins had no men to fear and therefore no need of protection.”
“This led me very promptly to the conviction that those “feminine charms” we are so fond of are not feminine at all, but mere reflected masculinity – developed to please is because they had to please is, and in no way essential to the real fulfillment of their great process.”
“If, by any accident, you did harm any one of us, you would have to face a million mothers.”
“They aren’t human – they’re just a pack of Fe-Fe-Females!”
“There never was a woman yet that did not enjoy being MASTERED.”

Title: Herland
Author: Charlotte Perkins Gilman
Publisher: CreateSpace Publishing
Published: 1915
ISBN: 9781534848474

 

 

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Forgotten Country

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Length 296
Quick Review The story of a Korean family who emigrated to the US. Following the oldest daughter as she looks to the past while coping with her father’s illness in the present. Delving into issues of identity, immigration, education, family, sisterhood, cancer, and more.

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Catherine Chung is able to capture the complexities of familial relationships with grace tackling difficult subjects.

The protagonist, Janie, is in her mid twenties and a PhD student when her sister disappears and her father is diagnosed with cancer soon after. While trying to put her family back together she looks toward her version of the past for answers. As the story unravels more versions emerge giving a larger picture to the intricacies of what it means to be family and siblings.

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Chung takes on issues of immigration and the difficulty of identity as a child growing up in a new culture. She explores the problems of being the peacemaker in a family. The issue of being born a girl within a family desperately wanting a boy. Having to face the reality of a past after having lived never suspecting the truth.

For me, the most interesting aspect of Forgotten Country is a truth I have been toying with for awhile. Though siblings are raised under similar conditions with the same parents, advantages, genes, and everything else, they have completely different experiences within those conditions. It is a difficult reality coming to this conclusion that siblings have vastly different experiences of the same instance or that a moment away can make all the difference to another.

I really loved this novel. I believe it has more depth than it seems at first glance. I look forward to reading her future work. She has a bright future ahead of her.

Memorable Quotes
“And it seemed that if this impossible thing was true, the opposite could also happen.”
“In the end, we left our house bravely: we did not go from room to room talking about old memories. We did not stand and state, or turn back for one last glance.”
““Your girls need names.” “They already have names,” my mother said. “Proper names,” Mr. B. clarified. “American names.””
“I think joy can stop time.”

Title: Forgotten Country
Author: Catherine Chung
Publisher: Riverhead Books
Copyright: 2012
ISBN: 9781594486524

 

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The Thing Around Your Neck

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Length 218
Quick Review Twelve short stories in one book exploring women’s lives in Nigeria and America. As always, I highly recommend it because Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is amazing. 

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Up until now, I have only read Adichie’s novels, so I was excited to read her short stories. She is renowned for her story teller’s expertise, and has been published in some of the best journals including The Iowa Review – a little home-state pride!

Her style, as always, is incredibly straightforward but incredibly nuanced. Her imagery paints a clear picture of the world her characters live in. Her endings are abrupt leaving the reader craving for more yet allowing each person to take away something different. Though the endings are always frustrating, I keep coming back to them wondering what happened.

Adichie explores the realities of womanhood. The meaning of being a black woman in Nigeria and the U.S., and how those meanings and realities differ. The trials and tribulations of being a woman, a black woman, and an immigrant are shown instead of explained. It’s a resonating exploration of how outsiders men, white women, non-immigrants/outsiders of a culture fail to understand the essence of what a black woman’s experience is. Though I share the identity of woman and can identify and understand those trials, I can only read, ask questions, research, but mostly listen to black women (really any woman of color) to understand the obstacles they must overcome, which I do not have to.

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I recommend anything Adichie writes. Especially if you want to begin learning, empathizing, and hopefully empowering those different from yourself.

Memorable Quotes
“Then Chika feels a prick of guilt for wondering if this woman’s mind is large enough to grasp any of that.”
“But why do we say nothing?”
“It’s never quite like that in real life, is it? Women are never victims in that sort of crude way.”

Title : The Thing Around Your Neck
Author: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichi
Publisher: Anchor Books
Copyright: 2009
ISBN: 9780307455918