Books

Kintu

Read: Yes
Length: 442
Quick Review: The Kintu clan is widespread throughout Uganda divided by diverse experiences yet united by the curse created centuries ago.

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To be honest… I don’t really know how to review this novel. It’s big but not huge. It’s epic but completely accessible. It’s a great novel, but I don’t know how to describe it to you because I’m still processing it, and I think I will be for awhile. I know a lot about Nigerian history and culture because I’ve read quite a bit; Ugandan culture, history, and people are far less familiar, so I spent a good deal of time looking things up, which is good.

Makumbi is a Ugandan writer living in England writing in English. She is not writing for a Western audience, though. She isn’t diluting her culture in order to be published or well received or better understood. She’s writing for her people. For those of us who are not familiar with her culture, she draws us into her world and asks us to do a little work. It’s only fair.

Kintu has been heralded as the great Ugandan novel. I can’t say because I have no depth in Ugandan literature, but it is a great novel on its own.

Ugandan history is depicted through the Kintu clan beginning with Kintu Kidda a Ppookino in Buddu Province of Bugunda in th 1750’s. A curse is placed upon him and his descendants. In 2004, the novel follows key members of the family and how the curse affects them.​

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Makumbi writes about a myriad of topics, which are universally important, through the different family members in the Kintu clan. The culture represented is vastly different than that of which I grew up in or am familiar with, but it is incredibly engaging. She says her novel is not feminist, but it would be hard to read it as anything but. The female characters sparkle with strength and resilience, while the men voice opinions that strongly support equality. Twins are a running theme throughout the novel and are viewed in a way drastically different yet eerily similar to what I am familiar with.

One theme that is impossible to not notice is that of family. How family and familial history affect those around us and those who come after us in one way or another. Family is an important part of a person’s identity whether one is close to them or not. Knowing where one comes from is a way of knowing and finding oneself.

I really, really, really enjoyed this book. I don’t want to talk too much about it or give to much away because everything is so intricately interwoven. There are a lot of parts and aspects I would read with confusion because it didn’t feel like it belonged, but everything comes together in the most magical way.

Memorable Quotes
“A child was far more secure than waddling down the aisle with a wedding ring and a piece of paper.”
“”A sexually satisfied woman is a good wife, that’s all I’m saying.””
“Most people, she presumed, grew up dispensing bits of their lives over and over.  Eventually their stories flowed easily.”
“Normally, silence washed things like that away, but this time it watered and the deed grew.”
“to have a mind was to be alive.”

Title: Kintu
Author: Jennifer Nansubuga Makumbi
Publisher: Transit Books
Copyright: 2017
ISBN: 9781945492013

 

Books

You Can’t Touch My Hair

Read: Yes
Length: 285
Quick Review: Robinson writes her funnily serious memoir about comedy, culture, and being a black woman in America.

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Phoebe Robinson isn’t afraid of being funny or getting honest about the realities of blackness in America. Within the first five pages, she had me laughing, but then sobered me up by talking about police brutality towards black men and women, the dream of living in a postracial world, and Obama’s optimism sparking resistance if not regression in regards to race.

If you can’t tell by the title You Can’t Touch My Hair and Other Things I Still Have to Explain she talks about black hair. I was blessed with a black roommate my freshman year of college, who explained so many things I, as a white lady, did not understand about black femininity. Black hair is not white hair, not even close. Care, styling, perception, and more is vastly different than white hair. It’s important to understand these differences WITHOUT touching a black girl’s hair. Just don’t.

Miss Robinson is an absolute feminist. I loved reading her opinions. There was one moment of utter worshipping at Miss Robinson’s feet when I read: “But in all seriousness, the infantilization of women perpetuates inequality, and when that is conflated with sex, it’s easier to reduce women to objects and strip them of the power they have over their bodies.” Yesssss. This is such an important concept to understand and have articulated. It is especially true for black women throughout history, but it is true for all women. This statement stopped me.

You Can’t Touch My Hair is honest, funny, sobering, and quick. I couldn’t put it down. Her prose and ability to draw the reader in is fabulous. I can’t wait to watch her career grow especially in these changing times.

Known as @dopequeenpheebs in the Twitter and Insta-sphere, she proves herself a queen in her memoir. Queen of pop culture. I’m about a century behind in pop culture, so I found myself with an open Google page 96.461% of her book. Basically: Thank you Phoebe for helping me learn about the world I live in! Also… Thanks for the thumb carpal tunnel.

Complete sidenote. If for some reason, Phoebe Robinson reads this. I’m from Iowa! You said Bumblefuck, Iowa. There are tons of Bumblefuck places. Iowa is totally underrated. Nebraska (outside of Omaha) is Bumblefuck. Montana, North Dakota. Tons of Bumblefucks!!! My hometown is Ames Iowa. George Washington Carver worked and researched at Iowa State, which is less than ten blocks from my front door just pass the horse stable. He is the reason everyone loves peanut butter.

Memorable Quotes
“why Forever 21’s adult-sized leggings are so small they could double as condoms for sea turtles.”
“I also love that when other people see you on boats, they think your life is literally cunnilingus from unicorns”
“I just kept this reoccurring conversation going in my head throughout my time in high school, hoping that one day, I would go to bed, wake up,  and magically do something, anything, different with my life.”
“but black women have their own unique battles, a Molotov cocktail of racism and sexism.”
“I felt like I wasn’t being me but a version of me that was as nonthreatening and inoffensive as possible. But that’s the thing. Being true to oneself shouldn’t be considered threatening.”

Title: You Can’t Touch My Hair; And Other Things I Still Have to Explain
Author: Phoebe Robinson
Publisher: Plume Books (PenguinRandom House)
Copyright: 2016
ISBN: 9780143129202

 

Books

All the Single Ladies

Read: Yes
Length: 339
Quick Review: An in depth look at the transformation in status, perception, and participation American women have undergone in society through the centuries.

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All the Single Ladies by Rebecca Traister

Rebecca Traister had me hooked when she stated, “I always hated it when my heroines got married” within the first few paragraphs. All the Single Ladies is a look at modern women and where we have come from.

All the Single Ladies is a fun yet in depth look at the history of women with a focus on American women. There are tons of statistics, but you won’t drown in them. The statistics serve a purpose to educate but are still interesting. Traister utilizes her own single life as well as friends, colleagues, and others’ experiences as single women. One thing Traister conveys more than anything else is that singledom is incredibly diverse looking different for everyone.

 Traister is not anti-marriage, anti-male, anti-woman, or anti-single. When she began her journey writing this book, she was a single woman living in New York City. At some point in her life and book journey, she met a man. She is now a married woman with two daughters.

This has been on my reading list for awhile since I am a single lady. For as excited as I was, I was also a touch tentative. Rebecca Traister is a white woman. There is nothing wrong with this. When looking at a subject, there is the tendency to look at people similar to oneself. I was worried there would be a deficiency of inclusivity and diversity of perspective, socio-economic background, race, etc. I was pleasantly surprised. From the beginning, she states that she sites more white, New Yorker writers than most of us probably know. Throughout the book, she does a good job of talking about all women and not just those she identifies with. She spends a great deal of time discussing the disparity between white women and women of color, poor women and middle class/wealthy women, and more. She explores the fact women of color and poor women have enabled wealthier classes of women “freedoms.” How there is a dependency between the two discrepancies. How white women have lead change by co-opting opinions and actions of women of color.

Traister spends a lot of time emphasizing the complexities of women’s issues.

Nothing Traister wrote was groundbreaking. At least, it wasn’t ground breaking or remotely shocking to me. I spend a lot of my time listening to women’s stories and reading about the history and complexities of women’s status in society. If it’s not something you have spent a great deal of time lingering on, there will be lots of information packed into a fairly short book.

(I have fun finding mistakes, and she had one mistake on page 153: the date should be 1938 but reads 1838. Oops! Only off by 100 years.)

I highly suggest this book. It’s interesting and fun. Personally, it rejuvenated my love of being a single woman in America. I would love to hear Traister’s opinions about women’s status post the 2016 presidential election.

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Memorable Quotes
“…these single American women have already shown that they have the power to change America, in ways that make many people extremely uncomfortable.”
“Any time women do anything with their lives that is not in service to others, they are readily perceived as acting perversely.”
“When people call single women selfish for the act of spending on themselves, it’s important to remember that the very acknowledgement that women have selves that exist independently of others, and especially independent of husbands and children, is revolutionary.”
““It takes a lot to qualify a man as selfish”” Amina Sow
“The state must play its role in supporting a population that no longer lives and dies within a family unit.”
“at the heart of independence lies money.”
“When it comes to female liberty and opportunity, history sets an extremely low bar.”
“women’s maternal status is often treated as the singularly interesting thing about them”

Title: All The Single Ladies; Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation
Author: Rebecca Traister
Publisher: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks
Copyright: 2016
ISBN: 9781476716572

 

Drinks, In The Kitchen

Hot Cocoa

Christmas has come and gone, but winter will still be here for awhile. I am a firm believer reading should be accompanied by a warm drink. I am usually found with a cup of tea in my hand. Sometimes coffee. In the winter, always hot cocoa. I grew up with hot cocoa being a special winter drink enjoyed from Thanksgiving until the snow cleared. I grew up sipping my mom’s recipe.

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Over the years, I have honed my own recipe, which has become beloved by friends. It’s rich and chocolaty because that’s exactly what cocoa should be.

Ingredients
  • Milk
  • Chocolate (Preferably semi-sweet baker’s chocolate, but chocolate chips will do)
  • Sugar
  • Marshmallows

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  1. Grab your favorite mug. Fill it with milk.
  2. In a medium pan put three ounces (or more if you like it chocolaty) of your favorite chocolate and a tablespoon of sugar with a quarter of the milk from your mug. Over medium heat using a whisk melt the sugar and chocolate until the mixture is thick.
  3. Pour the rest of the milk from the mug into the pan. Continue stirring continuously until boiling
  4. Pour the hot chocolate into the mug, add marshmallows and enjoy!!!

I love hot chocolate plain, but over the years, I have come up with fun variations to add a little something extra to it. Here are some of my favorites.

Peppermint Cocoa

  • Take a candy cane and crush it up. Add half of the crushed candy cane to the pan with the milk. Once the cocoa is in the cup, sprinkle the candy cane pieces over the marshmallows for a pretty look.

Espresso Cocoa

  • Add a shot of espresso to the pan with the milk. If you don’t have an espresso machine, you can use a tablespoon of instant espresso/coffee at the beginning to melt with the chocolate and sugar. It will add caffeine and extra yumminess for the coffee lovers. A great way to start the day at the office!

Boozy Cocoa

  • After the cocoa is made and in the mug, add a shot to your cocoa. You don’t want to put the alcohol in the pan while it’s cooking because you’ll boil away the alcohol. It’s a fun addition to a cozy girls’ night, romantic evening, ski trip, or any number of fun activities.

Best Boozes:

  • Peppermint Schnapps
  • Kahlua
  • Vanilla Vodka
  • Spiced Rum
  • Whipped Cream Vodka
  • Bailey’s
Books

Food; A Love Story

Read Yes
Length 340
Quick Review A hilarious memoir through the lens of a man in love… with food. Gaffigan goes to great lengths to describe the depths of his feelings.

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I have been a Jim Gaffigan fan for a while. I, however, had not committed to reading his book. Granted, I knew it couldn’t possibly take me terribly long to finish… He isn’t exactly setting himself up to be the next Chaucer.

I finished the book in a grand total of two sittings. It ended up being two because he made me hungry, so I had to go take a food break. This can’t be too shocking, but we both rather enjoy food immensely. After reading his book, I think we could be friends bonding over our love of food and our loving-hatred of our shared Midwestern roots. (We can make fun of the Midwest because we grew up there, you can’t; unless, you’re one of us.)

Gaffigan is relentlessly funny and opinionated. Through his book it is easy to tell the two great loves of his life: his food and his family – which is number one and two I am not sure, though. If you’re familiar with his comedy, you will hear his voice ringing loud and clear through the book. Not that I’m a stalker, but it feels like he is speaking to you. His humor transcends the written word.

I highly enjoyed his innovative map of the United States, or as it will come to be known as “The Jim Gaffigan Food Map.” I particularly identified with his chapter on Seabugland. Have I mentioned, we should be friends.

Nothing that I’m about to say will surprise his fans. He has an affinity for making up conversations, which are equally hilarious and probably better than the truth. From now on, I will be citing these conversations as answers to my friends’ questions as often as possible. I found his use of repetition a bit well… repetitive, but that is his style, and he writes the way he speaks. Though it works in stand up, it is a bit much for a book.

All in all, if you are a lover of food or comedy or both or you have a pulse, you should read his book.

Memorable Quotes
“Anyway, I’m overweight.”
“I for one can think of a thousand thing that taste better than thin.”
“I was from Indiana, which tho many is considered the trailer park of the Midwest”
“I like to think coffee comes from beans; therefore, it’s a vegetable.”
“My heart with all its clogged arteries belongs to bratwurst.”
“There is something profoundly sad about eating cake while you are alone.”

Title: Food; A Love Story
Author: Jim Gaffigan
Publisher: Three Rivers Press (Crown Publishing Group)
Copyright: 2014
ISBN: 9780804140430

 

Experiences, Travel

San Antonio

I was not supposed to go to San Antonio at all this year. Not that I was avoiding it, but my travels were taking me elsewhere. Time is limited, and all I had managed to do was drive through San Antonio on my way to other destinations. Instead, I ended up in San Antonio twice! Once in August and once in October. In August, I joined my best friend in San Antonio for a day and a half. In October, I joined my mother on a trip she had planned. Both last minute trips, but those are the best sometimes!

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San Antonio has a lot to offer. I ended up staying around the River Walk mostly. Since I was just a tag along, I followed their plans. With my mom, I stayed at the Marriott overlooking the River Walk and downtown San Antonio. The patio was lovely and provided the perfect reading nook in between tourist activities. It really couldn’t have been a better view.

San Antonio is a historic city with events dating all the way back to 1536 when the river was discovered by the Spanish explorer Alvar Nuñez Cabeza de Vaca. Although, the history does not end their. San Antonio is now well known for their River Walk and The Alamo. The city has a lot more to offer, but these are the most notable features. San Antonio was founded in 1716, when the Spanish War Council approved a fort on the San Antonio river. In 1820, Americans are allowed to settle in the Spanish territory of Texas, but it isn’t until 1825 that Americans settle in San Antonio. However, in 1830, Mexico declares American immigration to Texas illegal. In 1836, the Alamo falls after Americans lay siege on the city, at which point it becomes the Republic of Texas until American annexation in 1845. Due to devastating flooding in the early twentieth century, the city of San Antonio begins petitioning for the construction of dams, which leads to the River Walk as we know it.

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The River Walk is located in the center of San Antonio with downtown incorporated into the scenery. One must walk down a flight of stairs or take an elevator to get to the river because the street runs above the river walk. The River Walk is miles long with restaurants, shops, and hotels on either side. The buildings have two main entrances one at river level and one at street level. Along the river, there are bridges connecting the two sides. At street level, there are bigger bridges running over everything. Walking along the river, fountains run into the water. People are all around bustling with the happiness which comes with tourism. The River Walk would not be a lovely place to settle in for a good, quiet read, but it is a wonderful place full of photo opportunities.

When you ascend the stairs up to the street level, another equally busy scene unfolds. The streets are filled with shops geared toward tourists and San Antonians alike. Downtown is lovely.

As a non-native Texan, I had an image of the Alamo, which did not hold up when compared to reality. In my mind’s eye, the Alamo was in the middle of the country taking up an enormous amount of land because “everything’s bigger in Texas.” The Alamo is located in downtown San Antonio just across the street from the River Walk. It was as beautiful as I thought it would be, but it was far less imposing. Instead it had the quaint beauty of a small stone church, which is exactly what it was once upon a time.

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I think most of us know the Alamo from the saying “Remember the Alamo,” but we don’t exactly know what that means. The Alamo is located along the San Antonio river. The land changed hands between the Spanish, Mexicans, Texans, and Americans. The Alamo started out as a church; however, it quickly transitioned into a military garrison because of it’s strategic position. “Remember the Alamo” was the battle cry during the fight for independence from Mexico, which came to the Republic of Texas in 1836. There you go!

The Alamo is gorgeous and historical. The gardens are beautiful. It was an incredibly hot day in the beginning of October when I visited. It was around 96 degrees Fahrenheit, but inside the stone walls making up the church it was incredibly cool. No wonder ye people of olden days built everything with stone: kept the heat at bay. The Alamo, though beautiful, is not an ideal place to read. Tons of great reading nooks, but the people are overwhelmingly everywhere.

Over all, San Antonio is a great place to visit, but if you’re looking to get some reading done, book a hotel with a patio overlooking the River Walk.